How can stress affect your relationship?
You may notice that as your stress levels go up, your sex drive goes down, but don’t panic; you’re not alone. Low libido is incredibly common, and experts think that stress plays some part in that.10
Why does stress affect your sex drive?
There are a few reasons that stress stops you from having the urge to get close to your partner:
Fight or flight
Even though your eyes haven’t seen a sabre-toothed tiger for some years now, your brain classes stress as a physical threat that you will either need to run from or fight.2
As such, when you’re under stress, it makes you not want to lie around having a kiss and a cuddle – which may be the reason why you don’t feel the urge.
It’s hormonal
At the same time, stress triggers hormonal changes in the body, producing higher levels of the stress hormone
cortisol.
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Cortisol is made from the same building blocks as testosterone – and if your body is making one hormone, it can interfere with the production of the other, so if testosterone levels fall, so does libido.12
Stress = more arguments
Stress is common in everyone’s life at some stage including in relationships sometimes, with research showing a clear link between stress and an increase in more negative interactions, like arguments.13
When you’re arguing or feeling unhappy with your loved one, you’re likely to also experience a loss of libido – arguments aren’t exactly an aphrodisiac! Libido is very much linked to your state of mind, and if you’re not feeling great, you’re not likely to have much of a desire for intimacy.10